Yesterday’s was a long blog extolling the Sacral chakra. In Western society, thanks to the puritanical ideas that came down to us from our Protestant, Christian ancestors, many women have felt divorced from their own sexuality and sensuality. Consequently, personal power is something that needs to be reclaimed. Women give their power away as caretakers of their families, of their social groups, and at work. Speaking from women I have talked this over with, we become people pleasers, we look to others to see if we are pretty enough, nice enough, helpful enough, empathic enough, enough of enough… Woman who fall for the belief that personal power lies in beauty, give that power away to dolling it up to be attractive to men. Women are the harshest critics of other women, because we can never live up to the extreme perfectionist ideas we ourselves hold.
I believe it is easier for men to hold personal power, because they have been raised to it. Even this statement opens up a can of worms. I’m not certain that in the competitive corporate world that men find themselves embroiled in, for example, that they find it easy to hold personal power. After all there are standards to be met and not everyone is going to wind up as CEO of the Board earning megabucks a year.
Eventually it is up to the individual person to decide what their personal power is all about. Maybe we decide that the standards we have been applying to ourselves are too high or don’t fit us at all. I am too driven to express myself creatively to like the caregiver role at all! And yet the woman who adopted Patty and I felt most fulfilled as a traditional wife and mother. There are men who have given up a good paying corporate life to find satisfaction living close to the earth. We need to find out what makes sense for us, and what feels good to us. I noticed that when I stopped making what I thought others wanted of me my priority and began giving me what I wanted and needed, I felt good, and consequently I am more able to take pleasure in asking and providing what my loved ones want and need.
Personal power is what makes me feel good about being me. In the act of nurturing my own needs, I accept and support myself. If others have genuine need of me, I can be of service without sacrificing my personal well being. I can feel good being useful.
Exercise: Take a moment to send energy up and down your vertical core, relaxing into your breathing, and breathing energy up and down your roots. Once that is going well, breathe energy up, and store it in your Sacral chakra. Let that energy spin and coalesce. Think of it as storing personal power in your womb or scrotum. How does this make you feel? Can you feel your center? Does this energy have color or form? Do memories or ideas come up for you? If anything is upsetting, breathe into it. Stepping into strong emotions and facing my fear has lessened their hold over me, however, memories may arise that address the need to get psychological help. There is no shame in this.