365 Days of Prayer – Day 77 The Chakras one by one Day 7 – Sacral again

Yesterday’s was a long blog extolling the Sacral chakra. In Western society, thanks to the puritanical ideas that came down to us from our Protestant, Christian ancestors, many women have felt divorced from their own sexuality and sensuality. Consequently, personal power is something that needs to be reclaimed. Women give their power away as caretakers of their families, of their social groups, and at work. Speaking from women I have talked this over with, we become people pleasers, we look to others to see if we are pretty enough, nice enough, helpful enough, empathic enough, enough of enough… Woman who fall for the belief that personal power lies in beauty, give that power away to dolling it up to be attractive to men. Women are the harshest critics of other women, because we can never live up to the extreme perfectionist ideas we ourselves hold.

I believe it is easier for men to hold personal power, because they have been raised to it. Even this statement opens up a can of worms. I’m not certain that in the competitive corporate world that men find themselves embroiled in, for example, that they find it easy to hold personal power. After all there are standards to be met and not everyone is going to wind up as CEO of the Board earning megabucks a year.

Eventually it is up to the individual person to decide what their personal power is all about. Maybe we decide that the standards we have been applying to ourselves are too high or don’t fit us at all. I am too driven to express myself creatively to like the caregiver role at all! And yet the woman who adopted Patty and I felt most fulfilled as a traditional wife and mother. There are men who have given up a good paying corporate life to find satisfaction living close to the earth. We need to find out what makes sense for us, and what feels good to us. I noticed that when I stopped making what I thought others wanted of me my priority and began giving me what I wanted and needed, I felt good, and consequently I am more able to take pleasure in asking and providing what my loved ones want and need.

Personal power is what makes me feel good about being me. In the act of nurturing my own needs, I accept and support myself. If others have genuine need of me, I can be of service without sacrificing my personal well being. I can feel good being useful. 

Exercise: Take a moment to send energy up and down your vertical core, relaxing into your breathing, and breathing energy up and down your roots. Once that is going well, breathe energy up, and store it in your Sacral chakra. Let that energy spin and coalesce. Think of it as storing personal power in your womb or scrotum. How does this make you feel? Can you feel your center? Does this energy have color or form? Do memories or ideas come up for you? If anything is upsetting, breathe into it. Stepping into strong emotions and facing my fear has lessened their hold over me, however, memories may arise that address the need to get psychological help. There is no shame in this.

Creator, as I work with my energy body, I learn more about my self and what motivates and pleases me. Through grounding and centering myself, I have learned to have self acceptance and more confidence. I can retreat here, when I need to embrace my own well being and balance my emotions. Thank you.

365 Days of Prayer – Day 76 The Chakras one by one Day 6 – Sacral

There is so much that could be said about the Sacral chakra. From the watery womb we all enter into physical life. The act of giving birth made me a mother, but raising my son was the act of creating a life.

Ideas gestate here, like seeds in the fertile earth. It is not coincidence that some ancient peoples buried their dead under the earth, positioning them like fetuses.

The Sacral chakra’s element is water. I find it poetic, almost, to think of the seed rooting at the moment of conception in the womb, and the watery womb nurtures that life into the realm of air, element of the heart. The baby rests and grows under mother’s heart, listening, the heart beat like the drumbeat of the earth. So it is here that we engage all of the chakras and all of the elements. The fiery thrust of the sex drive creating the new life, and the rooting in the earth of the mother’s body, the growth in the sacred, watery womb, listening to the sound element of the throat chakra, to be birthed into the physical realm surrounded by air, again the throat chakra, giving expression to life.

So it means one thing to a woman to have a womb, and another thing to a man. Wanting to get at a better understanding of this, I just asked my husband for his opinion. Alan states that the Sacral chakra is the seat of personal power. Sexuality and sensuality are driving forces. Chi/Qi/Ki is the engine that empowers. The kundalini rises up the spine and eventually crowns in the head. If a woman’s womb is her place for storing personal power, then it follows that a man’s scrotum is his. His sexual expression is standing up, thrusting in, spurting out. Hers encloses, is receptive, watery, and contained.

Alan further states that a man can simply scatter his seed where he will. A woman has to bear her seed and the changes that holds for her body. The nature of the sexes is different; he has noticed that men feel more confidant when they can have sex whenever they want, whereas a woman feels more confidant knowing she has a protector for her and the child. This line of questioning does not take into account one’s culture, social status, married or single states, or even what one believes about such things.

But what I do notice, moving up from the simplicity and grounding power of the root chakra, that we are entering into broader concepts. The watery realm of the second chakra holds emotion, desire, what we feel and what we need. If we were adequately loved and nurtured, our wants respected and understood, we certainly have more confidence than if we were unwanted, abandoned, or largely left to fend for ourselves.

The area of our bodies, both men and women, assigned to the Sacral chakra is the area of the tan t’ein in Oriental martial arts and Chi Gong medicine. This is our center of balance. If we were trees, we would be rooted in earth, and this would be the base of our trunk, from which the weight of our mass would support future growth up toward the sun. As human beings too, this seems logical and true. The sacrum is the base of our spine supporting our upright carriage.

Tomorrow will expand upon the rooting and grounding exercise of yesterday. Just for today, let’s practice sitting or standing quietly and centering. Sitting or standing, practicing intentional sensation, I am aware of my powerful gluteal muscles supporting my pelvis, hips and lower back. I allow my awareness to enter into the sacred space contained by my pelvis, below my navel. I allow myself to be aware of what this space is containing.

What does this sacral space hold for you?

Creator, today I am aware that I am containing feelings of __________. Guide me in accepting and processing these feelings. Make me aware of what I need to be aware of. If this is a transformative moment for me, guide the transformation. Thank you.